Self-Kindness Assessment

1. When you make a mistake, you typically:

Beat yourself up harshly and can't let it go Criticize yourself more than you'd criticize a friend Feel disappointed but try to be fair with yourself Treat yourself with the same understanding you'd give a friend

2. Your self-talk when you're struggling sounds most like:

"What's wrong with you? You always mess everything up." "Come on, you should be able to handle this better." "This is hard, but you'll get through it." "This is really difficult. How can I support myself right now?"

3. When you're overwhelmed, you're most likely to:

Push yourself harder and ignore your needs Feel guilty if you take time for yourself Reluctantly take a break but feel you should be doing more Recognize you need care and give yourself what you need

4. If a friend treated you the way you treat yourself:

You probably wouldn't stay friends—they'd be too cruel You'd find them harsh but might put up with it They'd be okay—sometimes supportive, sometimes critical They'd be a wonderful, supportive friend

5. When you think about being kind to yourself, you feel:

Resistant—you don't deserve kindness until you're better Uncomfortable—it feels self-indulgent or weak Open to it, even if it doesn't come naturally Natural—you practice self-kindness regularly

Are You Your Own Friend or Enemy?

1. When you make a mistake, you typically:

2. Your self-talk when you're struggling sounds most like:

3. When you're overwhelmed, you're most likely to:

4. If a friend treated you the way you treat yourself:

5. When you think about being kind to yourself, you feel: