What Are Your Core Wounds?
Explore the attachment patterns and early wounds that shape how you relate to yourself
1. In close relationships, I tend to:
Worry about being abandoned and need lots of reassurance
Keep some distance and feel uncomfortable with too much closeness
Swing between desperately needing closeness and pushing people away
Feel comfortable with intimacy and independence
2. When I think about my childhood, I most remember feeling:
Uncertain whether love was reliable; had to work hard to earn attention
That I needed to take care of myself; emotions weren't really discussed
Confused; caregivers could be comforting but also frightening
Generally safe and supported, even if imperfect
3. My deepest fear in relationships is:
Being abandoned, rejected, or not being "enough"
Losing my independence or being controlled
Being hurt by the very people I need most
Normal relationship challenges feel manageable
4. When I'm stressed or upset, I typically:
Reach out for support and can feel desperate for comfort
Withdraw and handle it myself; don't want to be a burden
Feel overwhelmed and don't know whether to reach out or withdraw
Reach out appropriately and can also self-soothe
5. The message I internalized most from childhood was:
"You have to prove your worth to be loved."
"Don't need anyone. Take care of yourself."
"The people who should protect you can also hurt you."
"You are worthy of love as you are."
Reveal My Attachment Pattern